Casual jealousy

Last week, I wrote about the phone and social media. That might be one of the causes of the lack of communication. This week I will talk about Casual Jealousy.

Casual jealousy

This is another area where one of the partner/spouses is jealous about a text he/she received, and asks who that is from. Not answering and causally saying it was from my friend, and got busy and laughing when reading the following text, so this dragged for more minutes.

When such behaviour occurs, it will not create a safe atmosphere for any of them.

Last week we talked about the phone and social media. This will be shown here. Sometimes some people think that jealousy is healthy to keep the other (partner) but on their toes, like some movie would show.

Continuing with this behaviour is tiring and toxic, honesty and showing respect is the key.

What causes jealousy?

Jealousy is rooted in lack of confidence and poor self-esteem. The jealous person does not feel a sense of self-worth. So, insecurity, whether you are the one who is insecure or your partner, look at the root of it and not keep doing the same behaviour.

Possessiveness is another cause where the jealous partner feels a sense of ownership, using a control behaviour to not let them fee their partner to find their own freedom because of fear of this freedom might find someone better.

The jealous person might have unresolved issues from childhood, bad experiences in past relationships, with lack of trust, infidelity or dishes leads to jealousy in the next one.

A jealous person will feel a threaten of exercise, multiple hobbies, spending time with friends or parents, because less time spend with partner, they might huck their email accounts, or going through their texts and phone calls.

Can this behaviour be unlearned?

Yes, with support of therapy and making lots of efforts to unlearn jealous behaviour, and understand the root of all this negative behaviour.